As the control-freak mother that I am, I like to do the occasional 'audit' of my 12yo son's school iPad.  In particular, I want to ensure that there has been no inappropriate content accessed from Safari or downloaded to his iPad.  

(I know. He is so unlucky to have me as a mother!)

Did 'Limiting Adult Content' really do the trick?

I have already set up his iPad to 'Limit Adult Content' in Safari and set him up as a 'child' in my iCloud Family, who has to 'Ask to Buy' when he downloads any apps from the App Store.  Restrictions are in place to limit any apps he sees in the App Store to 'age appropriate' apps only.

With all this, I was fairly confident that nothing too bad would be found when I did this audit this week.

I had a look through his web browsing history to see what sort of sites he had been accessing.  There were a LOT of YouTube pages accessed in Safari.  I had not put the YouTube app on his iPad, so Safari was his only way of accessing YouTube content.

Most of what I saw fairly tame - some fairly crude 'boy-stuff', but not too bad.  

But I have to say that I was very shocked at a couple that I saw.  One was an animation, first showing a male having genetalia hacked off (with lots of animated blood), and then a woman being mutilated (again with lots of animated blood).  While it was only an animation, it really was very sickening to watch.  

Now, I don't know if he actually watched the full video, and I don't know if he only accidentally stumbled across it.  But it made me realise just how much inappropriate content and appalling language is still able to be accessed on YouTube - even when you have the 'Limit Adult Content' control in place.

Restricting a particular website is sometimes also necessary

So, I added an extra restriction to his iPad, to cut off access to the YouTube website in Safari - at least until we could have a conversation and work on some rules and expectations (again) around future YouTube use.  

I was surprised that, for the few days that he had no YouTube access, I had heard no complaints!

When we finally had our 'mother/son' chat last night, I found out why.

'Ask to Buy' may not stop unexpected apps appearing your child's i-Device

To my surprise, I discovered that, when he found he didn't have access to YouTube through Safari, he simply downloaded the YouTube App.  

How could this have been allowed?  Hadn't I had set him up as a 'child' Family member when I set up this iPad, so that he would have to ask permission for any purchases/downloads?  I checked - and yes, I still had in place the 'Ask to Buy' setting in Settings ->iCloud->Family.

How was he able to download the YouTube app without me giving any permission?

He told me that he found the YouTube in the list of Apps that have been purchased or downloaded by me.  

Here's the trick.  As a family member of our iCloud Family, he could download any of my (or other family member) Apps without asking permission, and with no notification to me as the 'parent' in the iCloud Family.

This morning I have looked into this further and realised that, if he had bothered to try, he could download many other apps that are registered as 'purchased' against my iTunes account - including Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, Kik Messenger, etc etc - all the apps that I specifically DON'T want him using at this stage, especially not on his school iPad.  

In the App Store, these apps are all rated as 12+ or 4+ apps, so fit within the 'age restriction' I have set up in Restrictions.

Oops.  Drat.  The iCloud Family was not working the way I intended, especially when the family member is a fairly tech-savvy 12yo boy.

An extra 'restriction' to apply when you set up iCloud Family for a child

The good news is that there is a solution for this.  

The apps that you have purchased/downloaded previously, but don't want your child Family member to download, can be 'hidden' so that they are no longer able to be seen in the list of your previous purchases.

This will prevent your child from downloading them without your permission or knowledge.

Apps can be 'unhidden' again if this is ever needed (for example, if you should need to re-download to your own or another device).

So, today I will be going through the list of Apps listed against my iTunes account - and against other family member accounts - and 'hiding' those that I don't want appearing on my son's iPad.

A 'handy hint' on the topic of 'hiding' and 'unhiding' apps will be published soon, so keep an eye out for it in the iTandCoffee Newsletter.

Have you set up any Parental Controls on your own child's i-Device?  iTandCoffee can help.

The topic of how to set up 'Parental Controls' on an iPad (or iPhone, iPod Touch) will be covered on Friday March 4th at 9am at an information session being held for Glen Iris Primary School parents (in the school library).  We will also look at this issue of 'hiding' and 'unhiding' Apps.

Glen Iris Primary School parents can book here to attend this session.

If you would like a similar session run at your own school, or are interested in attending a class on this topic at iTandCoffee, call 1300 885 420 or email enquiry@itandcoffee.com.au.  

​One-on-one assistance is also available if you need it.  It is not easy to understand all the setup that is required.

One of the topics discussed amongst the Mums at the iTandWine evening on Friday 6th Nov was how to control what the kids can watch on YouTube.

One of the mums bemoaned that, even though she had set up Restrictions on her son's iPad to stop any inappropriate websites in Safari, this did not cover the YouTube app - which was still able to show highly in appropriate content to her 8yo.

You can actually utilise a 'parental controls' setting in YouTube to restrict the type of content that can be viewed.

Here is the article that was published early September on this very topic, with a link to an article that gives instructions for different types of devices.

If you are interested in attending a 'Keeping kids Safe on iPad, iPhone and iPod Touch' class, email iTandCoffee at classes@itandcoffee.com.au.

One of the topics that came up at recent Keeping Kids Safe on iPad, iPod Touch and iPhone classes with school parents was that of how to ensure place parental controls on YouTube.

Many people are not aware that YouTube actually includes a setting that allows you to restrict that YouTube content that kids will see.

Check out this article on the topic.

• How to set parental controls on YouTube
  

If you are really concerned about how to really restrict what your kids can see on YouTube, you may want to consider a 'kid-friendly' YouTube app that replaces the standard YouTube app, and restricting your child's access to the YouTube website in Safari (or even blocking their use of Safari).

For more about how to set up Parental Controls on an iPad, iPod Touch and iPhone, why not attend a Keeping Kids Safe on iPad, iPod Touch and iPhone class at iTandCoffee in October and November.  Click here for details or to book.

I like to regularly feature noteworthy YouTube videos on this blog - especially for those of you who do not spend much (or any) time on YouTube.   

Little videos like these are the reason why YouTube is great vehicle for delivering important messages this one.  It is about addiction, of any form.  

Watch it and you will see what I mean (and please excuse the ad at the start!).

I know a lot of you loved the YouTube videos I shared last week from The Katering Show.

This week, I thought I'd share another one of their hilarious videos.  I love these ladies.

Then, for the mums out there, I highly recommend watching the second video below - a beautiful video from another mum - called 'The Extraordinary Gift of an Ordinary Day'.  

It is not funny like 'The Catering Show', but it is guaranteed to bring a tear to the eye of any mum - especially those who have watched their kids go through the innocence of childhood, the angst of adolescence, and then seen them come out 'the other side'.  

I found it so inspirational for those of us  who are struggling with the worries living with an adolescent!  We know that (in theory), they will be 'OK'.  But it still doesn't stop us from worrying!

For those of you who may not yet have discovered YouTube or are not on Facebook, here are a couple of videos that have featured recently on Facebook - both of which have got everyone who saw them laughing out loud (lol'ing!).

They feature two comediennes in a 'cooking' show that pokes fun at sugar free diets and the Thermomix revolution.  

They really show that YouTube can be such a wonderful source of entertainment!

Can't wait!  The next season starts 12/4/1 - put it in your iPhone Calendar!

Definitely worth checking out!

As part of recent iTea&Coffee classes we looked up a couple of moves on YouTube.  The laughter of these babies is just so infectious - it brightens your day!

Just what are they talking about!!??

This child's mother should be very very afraid.